The Spiral Stabilizer
A 4-Week Mini-Course to Help You Understand Your Triggers and Stop Emotional Chaos Before it Takes Over.
Stop freaking out every time something shifts in your relationships and learn how to regulate jealousy, attachment triggers, and reassurance needs -
even when the people around you are behaving like a hot fucking mess.
4-Week Relationship Reset Mini-Program
Total Value $1,199Currently Free.Kicks off April 15 AEST / April 14 PST
Does This Sound Like YOU?
You want relationships that actually feel good to be in. You want emotional depth and care, enough closeness AND enough autonomy, where you know someone always has your back and wants to spend time with you.
You want to feel peaceful, aligned, and authentic in your relationships instead of constantly second-guessing yourself.
Maybe you want emotional connection, intimacy, and to feel held and chosen, instead of wondering if something is wrong with you or if you’re just “not cut out for this.”
You want love that feels safe in your body - not like a runaway rollercoaster where you’re constantly having to hold on for dear life just to get through the day…
And right now, you probably fall into one of two camps:
You’re Already Exploring Non-Traditional Love
You might describe yourself as polyamorous, curious about non-monogamy, or someone trying to figure out what box you fit into and what you actually want.
But the reality doesn’t always match the fantasy.
You’re asking yourself things like:
“Is my current relationship worth it?”
“Should I just be alone?”
“Am I really polyamorous?”
“What if I’m just bad at relationships?”
You might feel like you’re constantly trying to regulate jealousy, insecurity, or fear of being replaced...and sometimes it feels like you’re fighting these battles alone.
But underneath all of that…
You want a relationship where you can feel secure, emotionally connected, and free to be yourself without constantly spiralling.
You Believe Love Should Feel Better Than This
You know something needs to change, and you’re considering exploring something a little more non-traditional. You believe in love and want something real, but so far, it just hasn’t been working out for you in the relationship department.
But putting yourself out there feels messy and frankly, not worth it.
Maybe you’ve noticed things like:
Dating feels like a shitshow.
The people who want connection don’t have time or capacity.
The people who do have time are walking red flag dumpster fires.
People say they want an emotional connection, but really?
They just want sex
You might even worry about things like:
“I’m concerned about not being touched or held enough.”
“I’ll never find the things I need that are missing from my relationship.”
And beneath that frustration is a deeper truth...
You don’t just want relationships.
You want alignment, authenticity, emotional safety, and real connection.
You want to build something that actually works.
TRUTHBOMB
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The TRUE secret to feeling safe, confident, and at peace in your relationships isn’t:
• Trying to force yourself to be the “cool” partner who never gets jealous.
• Constantly analysing your feelings and wondering WTF is wrong with you.
• Pretending you’re fine while slowly exhausting yourself trying to figure out how to ‘communicate better’.
• “Giving up” and resigning yourself to missing out on needs that aren’t being met in your current relationship landscape.
Instead? It’s learning how to understand why you worry, pretend and get activated in the first place.
It’s being able to tell the difference between insecurity, a need for reassurance, and something that genuinely isn’t right for you.
…so that you stop overthinking everything, reacting in ways that push people away, and wondering
if you’re just “bad at relationships."
Hi, I'm Shelly - Sex Witch, Hypnotist, Energy Coach
I help misfits and deviants go from spiralling, second-guessing, and feeling like they’re too much...to finding better ways to do love. Feeling calmer, clearer, and safer in themselves, without self-abandoning, suppressing their feelings, or pretending they’re the cool unbothered one when they’re absolutely fucking not.
This isn’t a “just communicate better” pep talk or a fluffy self-love kumbaya party.
It’s a no-BS, magick-meets-neuroscience recalibration for your relationship patterns, your nervous system, and your capacity to feel safer in love.
My Mission: to help you come home to yourself so you can feel safe in your body, more at peace in your relationships, and confident that you can be loved for who you are - with The Spiral Stabilizer
So, What is The Spiral Stabilizer?
It’s a simple way to understand your triggers, communicate what you actually need, and build relationships that feel honest, supportive, and aligned with who you truly are....so instead of constantly second-guessing yourself or wondering if you’re “bad at relationships”, you can:
Create partnerships that fully suit your life, needs and preferences.
Feel confident and sexy and truly desired by your partners every day (or at least most days!)
Feel safe in your body and trust that your discernment is accurate.
have loads of fun, healthy, boundaried sex with safe, sexy people who can communicate well.
focus on your health, happiness, and relationships (platonic included) without worrying about what you’re doing wrong.
Consciously choose relationships that allow you to feel confident and sexy, emotionally connected and cared for
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The Spiral Stabilizer is the BEST way to move from jealousy, panic, and emotional chaos…to feeling safer in your body, clearer in your mind,
and steadier when things shift.
Because trying to think your way out of the spiral doesn’t work.
Neither does pretending you’re fine, forcing yourself to be the cool partner, or talking yourself into a shitstorm of self-awareness bullshit.
The Spiral Stabilizer gives you relief, language, and stability.
It helps you understand what’s happening, recognise your patterns, and regulate before you react...so you stop overgiving and accepting poor treatment, feeling like you’re somehow “too much,” and “not enough” at the same time, and exhausting yourself trying to get other people to change.
What You'll Learn in This Free Program
How to recognise and interrupt the jealousy, panic, and overthinking that send you into emotional meltdowns - so you can feel calmer, clearer, and safer in your own body when things get hairy in your relationships.
The goal?
To swap constant spiralling, second-guessing yourself, and reacting in ways you later regret for clarity, emotional steadiness, and the ability to respond instead of react.
The vehicle?
A simple set of tools that help you decode emotions, map your personal activation pattern, and regulate before you react - so you can understand what’s actually happening inside you and handle awkward relationship moments without burning the whole thing down.
Here's The Sort of Thing We Will Cover...
Note: The exact inclusions are subject to change based on what you need!
Week One:
Jealousy Decoded
Turning emotional chaos into useful information.
- Understanding the five different types of jealousy (yes, they’re not all the same) so that you stop assuming something is wrong with you every time jealousy shows up.
- Learning the difference between activation and intuition so that you can finally make sense of what your reactions are trying to tell you instead of getting lost in self-doubt.
Week Two:
Mapping Your Activation Pattern
See what happens before things go sideways.
- Identifying your personal trigger patterns and protest behaviours so that you can see exactly how your spiral starts — and why it keeps repeating.
- Mapping your attachment loop (trigger → meaning → behaviour → consequence) so that you can interrupt the pattern instead of reliving the same relationship drama again and again.
Week Three:
Regulate Before You React
Respond with more care and less regret.
- Learning a simple pause-before-protest protocol so that you can slow things down before a moment of insecurity turns into a fight, shutdown, or a full blown meltdown.
- Practising clean reassurance requests and basic repair tools so that you can ask for what you need without blowing up the connection you actually care about.
Week Four:
Calm Doesn’t Mean Aligned
Get clearer on what’s real and what’s just loud.
- Understanding the difference between regulation, compatibility, and relationship structure so that you stop blaming yourself for dynamics that were never designed to feel safe;
- Learning how to tell the difference between a real red flag and an attachment spike so that you can trust yourself again instead of constantly questioning your instincts.
Bonus LIVE Celebration:
The Hidden Architecture Problem
Find the deeper layer that changes everything.
- We’ll raise a glass and celebrate the action you’ve taken... because showing up for this work matters.
- You’ll also get a powerful bonus session on why learning to regulate your reactions is only the first step...so that you can see the deeper layers of identity, values, and structure that create relationships that actually feel secure and sustainable.
What You Get
This FREE Program Includes:
Lesson Drops Over 4 Weeks: 4 LIVE short but thought-provoking lessons to help you understand jealousy, recognise your activation patterns, and stop emotional spirals before they take over. [Value $497]
Accompanying Playbook: A step-by-step digital playbook with simple exercises and prompts to help you decode your reactions, map your patterns, and practise responding instead of reacting. [Value $297]
Private Community: Access to a PRIVATE Community for the duration of the FREE Program, where you can ask questions, share insights, and realise you’re not the only one navigating this. [Value Priceless]
Crystal Clear Clarity: On why jealousy, panic, and emotional spirals happen in the first place — and what to do in the moment so you can feel calmer, clearer, and safer in your own body when things shift.
Total Value - $1199 | Currently FREE
This is the FIRST time we are running this, so we’re gifting it to you for free in exchange for your feedback.
Next time we run it, it will be a paid program.
The Details
100% FREE!
100% FREE as a gift to help you stop emotional spirals and feel safer in your body when things shift in your relationships.
Weekly Magick
LIVE weekly lessons + community support to help you understand jealousy, recognise your patterns, and regulate before reacting.
Let It Land
Learn how to interrupt the spiral so you can feel calmer, clearer, and steadier instead of constantly second-guessing yourself.
Who it's For
For anyone exploring non-traditional relationship styles, who wants more emotional stability, self-trust, and peace in love.
Who This is For
This program is for you if:
• Dating and relationships sometimes feel like a bit of a “shitshow” and you’re tired of trying to figure it out alone.
• You notice yourself getting jealous, anxious, or overwhelmed when things shift in a relationship.
• You’re exploring non-traditional relationships - or simply questioning the default script.
• You want to feel safe in your body, at peace, and more confident in your relationships.
• You want honest communication, emotional connection, and relationships that actually feel aligned.
• You don’t need to be polyamorous or practising ethical non-monogamy to benefit from this program.
• This is for anyone who is curious about a healthier, more intentional way to be in relationships.
Who This is NOT For
This Is NOT For You If
• You’re looking for rules about how relationships should work.
• You want strategies for controlling your partner or avoiding difficult conversations.
• You believe the solution is simply to suppress jealousy or “be less emotional”.
This program is for people who are willing to understand their reactions and build real internal stability instead.
It’s time to stop wondering what’s wrong with you every time jealousy or insecurity shows up
Imagine feeling calmer in your body, clearer in your mind, and steadier when things shift in your relationships.
No more spiralling.
No more overthinking every interaction.
No more questioning whether you’re “too much” or “bad at relationships.”
Just more clarity, self-trust, and emotional steadiness.
Join us inside the free 4-Week Spiral Stabilizer and start building the internal safety that changes everything.
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